DEAR ABBY: My daughter passed away last year, and we received custody of our grandson, who was 15 months old at the time. He is now nearly 2 1/2 years old. My daughter wanted him to call me Mamaw because that's what she called my mother, so I've always referred to myself that way, but recently, he has started calling me Mommy. I say Mamaw back to him and sometimes he will say Mamaw, but more often it's Mommy.

I'm uncomfortable not honoring my daughter as his mommy. We display her photos, and he will say that that's his mommy, but I also don't want to hurt his feelings by saying I'm not his mommy. His father isn't in the picture, so my husband and I are the only parents he knows. My husband seems uncomfortable with him calling me Mommy and when he hears it, he tries to correct him. Should we allow him to call us Mommy and Daddy or continue to correct him? -- GETTING IT RIGHT IN NORTH CAROLINA

DEAR GETTING IT RIGHT: Please accept my sympathy for the loss of your daughter. I see nothing positive to be gained by not allowing your grandson to call you what he wants. You and your husband have made clear that his mommy is in heaven, but right now the boy needs a Mommy right here on Earth. It is not at all disrespectful of your late daughter's memory to allow him that.

DEAR ABBY: I have been happily married to my husband for five years. When we married, money was tight, so we agreed to use temporary wedding rings and upgrade to our final official set later. Well, we finally did it, and my ring is what I always wanted. It is stunning.

The problem: When friends and family (and sometimes even strangers!) compliment me on my ring, it is often accompanied with, Can I try it on? or more forcibly, Let me try that on! I would never ask to try on something so precious to someone else, and I never want to see someone else wearing my wedding rings. Why do women do this and how can I politely tell them NO WAY? -- SHOCKED IN NEW YORK

DEAR SHOCKED: The women want to see it on their own hand and imagine for a moment that the ring is theirs. Feeling as you do, convey your message by smiling and replying, I never remove my wedding rings other than to clean them.

薩摩・大隅　昼前にかけ非常に激しい雨　厳重警戒を[08/18 07:46]

https://www.mbc.co.jp/news/article/2021081800051185.html

前線による大雨が続く薩摩、大隅地方では、１８日も昼前にかけて非常に激しい雨のおそれがあり、厳重な警戒が必要です。

県内には発達した雨雲が次々に流れ込んでいて、南大隅町で１８日朝早く、１時間に６０ミリの非常に激しい雨が降りました。

総雨量がさつま町紫尾山で９４９ミリとなるなど、薩摩地方を中心に記録的な大雨になっていて、いつ土砂災害が起きてもおかしくない状態です。
土砂災害警戒情報が薩摩地方の広い範囲に、大雨警報が薩摩、大隅地方全域と三島村に、洪水警報が鹿児島市と湧水町に出されています。

昼前にかけて非常に激しい雨のおそれがあり、雨量は最大で１時間に５０ミリ、１９日朝までの２４時間に２００ミリと予想されています。
土砂災害に厳重な警戒が必要です。